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What kind of attachment style do you have and which does he have? Ideally, you'd match your words to the kind of person he is. For some people the direct approach is truly the best option, and for others, the soft spoken gentle whisper is far more effective. You just need to know about how your fiance interacts with the world and how he prefers to be told unflattering truths. There is no one guaranteed way that works well with every attachment style.
Sounds like she’s just using you to get her green card, sorry man.
I live! in an area where family abuse happens often, so I honestly don't know. It's weird because he's always been against age gap relationships. Like if I wasn't within three years of his age he wouldn't be with me
Settle down. You're a bit over the top based on what we know so far.
ok cool. That may be the best course of action.
Did you swipe right?
Getting back with an ex is like putting poop back in your butt it ended 4 reason
“So he can find someone more attractive”?? What a dick thing to say.
Absolutely this! As someone who survived an abusive relationship I can safely say that it was a lot easier to see the abuse with time and distance. These internet strangers are trying to look out for you.
It’s not too late but she refuses to have one. I don’t really wanna be a dad yet, but I couldn’t just leave her now. She’s mentally ill.
I made it clear from the beginning maybe 7 days knowing him I didn’t want to go forward if that was something he did interested in no big deal no nude feeling and what ptsd I had from it before, I have gone to therapy and I’ve also been in relationship after that respected my boundary but didn’t work out so now I’m stuck feeling like he’s sneaky and a liar he could of been straight up from the beginning and I could of gone and found some one who respected me
You don't have to convince him to break up. It's not a debate, or a vote. If he won't voluntarily leave your apartment, get legal. Go to the leasing office and ask if they can help you. Ask if you can transfer to another unit, if you don't want to break your lease. Be firm, be clear, be focused, be determined. You can do this.
in what way do i seek help? Who do i tell I can’t tell anyone in my life rn
This sounds a lot like my wife and I a few years back. It was always us worried that the other person would stop loving us, or would ask for a divorce. Neither of us want that, we’re just in our own heads about our self worth. We came to an agreement: unless the other specifically talked about wanting to end things we can assume the other loves us and wants to be with us. We were going to work nude on showing and saying our affections towards the other more frequently to help remind the other.
Finally, there’s a difference between wanting to spend your life with someone and being ready to make that jump. Don’t get caught up on that part.
You are describing and accident not a mistake
Is the relationship going somewhere? no? would you like it to go somewhere? talk to your so about it
You just described my profile. I look for the same in mens profile.
Chase happiness or Money. Happiness wins.
This is only the beginning of a lifetime of abuse. Call the police and leave. Cancel the wedding! Don’t look back.
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Yes, you do deserve better! Don’t settle! Your person will never be confused about feelings for someone else when they already have you! You deserve to be loved and cherished wholeheartedly. I wish you the best. Please keep us updated.
It is legal, but not morally right, because you have a stablished career and she is starting her adult life, which is a huge power in balance during a relationship. Thank God you have low sex drive and she will get bored of you.
He treated her how i wanted to be treated.
Can you explain a little more?
no no, just like jeans and a top….like what I would wear hmm
She's not being honest with you or perhaps herself if she still has an emotional attachment to her ex (as it seems she does). Don't think about this further – you did the right thing.
Talk about the news and current events. How do you guys feel about Roe being overturned? What political issues interest you? What happened in your state last week?
Read the same book. See a movie together. Talk about your family, your earliest memories. What are your goals? Where do you want to be in 20 years?
etc.
Not enough info:
How long have you been together? Has she been extra busy and that is why she us tired?
So far if she hardly knows your mom and has been busy then I think it’s weird you are pushing the issue so much.
It’s plausible that he is an alien and got called back his mother ship, hence the ghosting. There’s no way to know for sure. But there’s certainly nothing in the fact pattern to suggest that is the case.
I couldn't be in an open relationship. I really really love him and we've been through so much together. I just feel like he didn't have many sexual experiences yet besides just sticking it in and out and that he doesn't care because he doesn't know sometimes. I don't know. I'll try to talk to him about it more. It just kind of sucks when I have to do the teaching instead of being able to just enjoy.
Sounds like even more of a reason for her to escape them.
Then he'd obviously really hurt by your actions. Stonewalling in general is abusive if it's a regular or frequent response. Thus time I'd chalk it up to him feelinhg hurt.
Have you guys resumed your regular sex life yet (after the birth). Do you think there's any chance he's feeling resentful or unloved if ot hasn't?
I have been the boyfriend in a relationship like this. And tbh I don’t believe there’s a real way out. Try to tell your concerns as stated in your post and tell him you want to talk about it in a few days (set a date). Idk how long you two are in a relationship, but if you really want to work on it you could apply for couple counseling. A lot comes from (mutual) misunderstandings and hopefully you can still figure it out together.
I thinking you’re overthinking it. I don’t think she meant it as seeing herself with someone else, but rather she’s open to dating that particular race IF she were single. Best thing you can do is talk to her about it ESPECIALLY since you aren’t even sure of the context of the conversation. Communication is key in a relationship.
I think you're correct to perceive this as a red flag. The issue isn't asking for consent, it's that your girlfriend is not emotionally mature. That would be a huge turnoff for me. Make sure you're clear about your reasoning so that she can't use this to declare that you're creepy for not wanting to ask for consent.
For the record, mutual and spontaneous kissing is beautiful thing. She's entitled to her boundary, but I agree that there's ways to decline a kiss if you're not interested without the buzzkill demand for verbal consent. Similarly if she simply wants things to go slower, just ask for that, don't overcomplicate things.
Next time you go out for a walk with him, keep on walking.
Tampering with condom >>>> fertility lie
he's stringing you along. cut ties
You guys shouldn't be already having major arguments when you're only 5 months into dating and aren't even in a relationship yet. This means you two just aren't compatible. This is meant to be the honeymoon stage, not the “always having major arguments about small things” stage.
I definitely would and it's something I have realized a lot in the past few years. I think this one is just extra tough for me cause I've been friends with him on and off (but mostly on) since 4th grade. I care about him a lot and when he's being normal and calm, we get along great. I'm very bad at letting go of people I've cared about for a long time, I think because when I've had so many good times with them, I hate to let go of having more good times with them. I also am not the type to give up on people I care about, but sometimes I have to when I'm put in a position where there really isn't a choice…and this is starting to feel like one of those situations. Like I don't want our friendship to end, and it wouldn't if it was up to me, but right now it feels like he's walking away.
If you didn’t make it clear that you want to go just the two of you, she’ll assume it’s with the friend group, especially if y’all do things like this together all the time. Better to be straightforward, no confusion, if you want a straight answer.
Your primary method is the pull-out method
I had more responsility at 18. Then again, I am your age and not pregnant the 2nd time around from a man who thinks about having kids with others after me.
Glad my comment had some value for you, OP. Your reply brought two things to mind.
A young lady my wife mentored during her tumultuous teens (her mother was a heroin addict stemming from an initial addiction to opioids after an accident) told us how she didn't really learn how to drive until after she got her license and could drive on her own. Before she got her license, it was always the person in the passenger seat telling her what she needed to do. After she got her license, she had to rely on herself to navigate the road and that's when she truly learned how to drive.
Secondly, I grew up in a small town and had the same dreams of seeing what life outside my small town had to offer. A few months shy of my 25th birthday, I did get out and it worked out well for me. I do find myself navigating back to small towns, however. My family still lives in a small town and I bought a cabin in the woods and spend a ton of time there and have forged invaluable friendships with several people from the neighboring tiny town.
Before I left the nest, though, I had both a job and a place to live! lined up. I didn't possess enough of an adventurer's spirit to just jump in a car and see where life would take me.
Don't let your dreams wither and die on the vine, OP. I recently turned 60 and a while back I sat down and answered one basic question: How well did I do in fulfilling the dreams I had for my life as a small boy? I had to admit that I fared well with some of those dreams but failed with others.
One day you'll look back in a similar manner, OP. I invite you now to think of the dreams you had as a 10 yr old girl and with every decision you make and every action you take both now and in the future, ask yourself if you're making progress on fulfilling those dreams…or are you one day gonna look back and see disappointment in that 10 yr old girl's face?
You got this, OP. Stay strong and know there's a 60 yr old dude out there that you'll never meet who believes in you and is praying for you! Make the 10 yr old you smile!
well learn how to be that type of person
That’s disgusting. She has to move out.
He needs to send her thirst traps of you. And then you need to end the friendship.
Some men just aren't ready for that level of commitment. I mean, you also have to trust your gut when you're noticing the signs of a potential failure. Like why is he having disagreements about not helping clean up? He's a grown man he should know how to help with chores.
I think that if not for the distance your relationship might have died a long time ago because of his failure to meet expectations alone.
With you being so far away, isn't it convenient how that pressure to do things isn't really there for him?
Find a man who backs his words, not someone who baits you over and over again.
Ignore the edgy teenagers and manchildren that love to come out in force on threads like this. You've just received devastating, irrecovably life-changing news and are most likely in a state of shock. It's ok to not be ok. It's ok to be reeling. I kindly suggest logging out of this account, taking some time to yourself and reaching out to your in-person support system.
Stfu.
I did not come here for assumptions about my relationship I came here for advice on how to deal with something . Thought I understand WHY someone would make this assumption, you have no idea what it’s like between us . I can’t blame you, but even if we don’t end up marrying , this will be a relationship that stays with me for many years . It’s been nude work, it’s required a ton of communication and clarification, patients and understanding . The honeymoon phase ended before I even moved in . But all I know is I admire a relationship where you can sit each other down and say what you don’t like about the situation and it end with us both feeling good . I want nothing more than to be with someone who I can’t stay mad at because they constantly try to improve to benefit us both . I hope everyone meets the person they can be themselves with and spend everyday laughing and loving each other . I think you know you love someone when you’d rather have a bad day with them than a good day without them
Not a problem! Good luck on your endeavors
I get it.
Tell him to go pound sand
Lol, ok? Why you here asking for advice then? Go waste your time chasing a man who doesn't want you, then.
I use them
I empathise with you- I have had coworkers crush on me in the past and the trick is to avoid offending people whilst making it clear you are completely off limits. Be professionally friendly- as in, cordial but never personal. Its very juvenile the way they are all behaving like teenagers and I get why that would irritate you. There's also a chance that the coworkers are exaggerating the situation for their own personal entertainment- never underestimate the power of boredom and gossip.
A close lipped smile and a “that's so flattering, but I don't mix my work and professional life” or “I'm actually seeing someone, its new but it's exclusive”. If pushed to your absolute limit- “listen she is a lovely girl but I am not comfortable talking about this any more”. Stay polite but be firm in your boundaries.
would be valid after an conversion
Did you read the post? Any of it?
No resentment, I think the point is if she just asked “why” instead of assuming it wouldn't be an issue. It's the followup of a question which makes an assumption which then distracts from the main conversation
Then you need to be honest with your “partner” and tell him he'll never be your priority. Be prepared for this to be the end of the relationship, as it should be. He deserves better.
I feel like she's about to lose 180 lb. I don't actually know how much her husband weighs, but that seems reasonable to me. God would a jerk.
They are 4 going to the show (3F and 1M), and they only want to pay for 2 rooms. Knowing 3+ peoples working for the government here, I'm sure they can't have more (I'm not in the US)
That thingy with calling that other weirdo “daddy”…. Maybe she even is pregnant already. Or intents to get so. But not with OP.
Jeez.
OP, what keeps you with him?
First off, was it bacon, was it crisp or lightly seared?
You’re right! Thank you
I’m so sorry. She’s not worth your time.
You stop having sex with him.
Get yourself a toy or two, so you can get yourself off.
It kinda sounds like when a couple has mismatched libidos, and so they open the relationship so the HL person can have their needs met. Maybe he's been reading too much of that side of Reddit and was hoping you'd be amenable to that like the people live. But it's a super selfish way of looking at things. Rather than trying to help you be more comfortable, or trying to understand where you are coming from and being patient, he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Oral sex is sex. Some people don't see it being as intimate as PIV, but to other people, oral can be more intimate. Just because he doesn't see it as intimate, doesn't mean you have to see it the same way
Even if it was his bipolar, whats her excuse?
End it, they have probably been fucking your entire marraige, sorry 🙁
Even if it was his bipolar, whats her excuse?
End it, they have probably been fucking your entire marraige, sorry 🙁
It doesn’t matter if it hurts or not, it’s spousal abuse. One day she will pick something up and hit or stab you with it and cause real damage. She absolutely will hit any kids you have with her. She has anger issues and no impulse control.
Work closely with doctors. And I’m not anti-psychiatry at all. But many psychiatrists have 0 self awareness when it comes to how they treat people on everyday interactions.
The joking voice in my head said: “damn, how do I find an arrangement like this?”
The real, human part of me that loves real connections with people wants to be around someone I love as much as I can. Not like clingy, but I genuinely enjoy being around them, even if we're both sitting in silence, doing separate activities. This is a very strange scenario. If the situation isn't compatible with your needs, either break up (probably better choice here), or take it to the next level.
Usually yes but they are kids so it would be easy for one to be delusional and spread the gossip that they are “dating”.
There was that weird post where the guy thought he got cheated on by his long time girlfriend but then realized he never was in a relationship with her and that explains why they never f&@$%# or even kissed.
I’m not saying both these posts are real, I’m saying if they are real then the people are really ignorant and delusional and require help.
Sending hugs to you, I'm proud of you that you have the courage to meet him and clarified things, and even more proud of you for walking away and blocking him. I'm sure you'll do so much better after this, keep staying safe. Hopefully, he'll realise how wrong those podcasts are, and changes for the better. Of course that is definitely not your responsibility.
I never got that hate. Like sure it may not be a manic episode – it's most likely not, since the OP writes that, besides this one outburst, he's acting normally. But the POINT of those Reddit forums is that people brainstorm together and give different takes, ideas, and options. If we are not allowed to make comments if those comments may be wrong, then… the point of even asking for advice/perspective disappears.
I know it’s reasonable and I already felt very guilty for keeping things from him, I want to be 100% honest in my relationships and I demand the same, I prefer a nude truth and I want the other person to feel free to do whatever they want + express any good/ bad feelings they have towards our relationship.
But, in this case I couldn’t stand to have another ugly fight with name calling, stonewalling and shouting for something I find harmless/ necessary for my well-being only because we have very different views on male/ female relationships and how to deal with exes.
ah, that’s why I’m asking for advice here, I don’t want to hide anything from him again, it already felt crap but I need him to understand me to some extend too and not lash out.
I know someone like this guy and he always posts shit like “I need someone to call my own” and your reply was chefs kiss.